It’s silly that so many guys calling themselves Tops can be so rude or judgmental about guys that prefer to bottom. Fam, let’s get real here – a Top needs a Bottom to be a Top.
You can’t be a Top all by yourself, bra!
Making people feel bad about themselves or judging them creates something dangerous known as ‘stigma’. Making guys feel ashamed of being a Bottom is dumb and is going to make them want to go into hiding, and if you are a Top that means you’re going to get a helluva lot less ass, ‘cos all the Bottoms will be avoiding your judgmental ass. Dissing Bottoms will leave you playing by yourself – duh!
Bottoms are dope yo! A good Bottom can give you an amazing ride (pardon the expression), and like anything in life, it’s a skill that can be improved on. Some guys are expert Bottoms and can make you feel things you’ve only ever dreamed of. Imagine missing out on that experience because you spoke trash about Bottoms.
Another thing, backsides are not self–cleaning and lubricating, someone must put in the work. Bottoms are doing all the preparation, and not just for themselves, but also for you. So, take good care of the Bottoms out there. Make sure that they feel safe and respected. Look after your Bottom or Versatile lovers. Use a condom, and use plenty of water-based lube. You don’t want your Bottom to be in any pain because a Bottom that is enjoying himself will help you to enjoy yourself even more too.
Bottom-shaming is childish. Bottoms deserve a lot more respect because Bottoming can make you more vulnerable to HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs), especially if no condoms are being used. And, even if the Bottom is on PrEP, he can still get one of the other STIs, so a Bottom has more at risk than you do. R.E.S.P.E.C.T! Try and minimise these risks for the Bottom/s in your life. They are giving you a soft, warm place to enjoy yourself, the least you can do is to make them feel more safe and comfortable.
And, maybe you’ve been a bitch about Bottoms because secretly you’ve been fantasising about being one yourself. You’ll be surprised! Give it a bash, and you might open yourself up to a lifetime of pleasure that you would otherwise be missing out on. We are men who like to have sex with men. We need to not have limited and dangerous views such as being the one being penetrated makes you the “woman”, and that it is “bad” or “embarrassing” to be behaving similarly to a woman. It’s 2017! Women are powerful and as Queen Bey says, they “run the world” and hello! Haven’t you heard of Power Bottoms? Plenty of strong, empowered, intelligent and successful men identify as Bottoms. We would all be so lucky to be like one of them.
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Bottoms make the world go around.
Bruce J. Little is a contributing writer for Anova Health Institute. These are his views, which may or may not be those of Anova and its affiliates. If you’d like to write for us, send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org