TAKE PRIDE
It’s Pride season, and if you’re anything like me, you’re ready to fluff out those tail feathers after a cold, dry winter. It’s Summer’s eve and whether or not you built a ‘bikini-ready bodaysha” during the nippy months, there is…
Gay and single? You’re part of a trend
“But I don’t wanna die all aloooooone!”, said the devastated queen sitting beside me at a group therapy open circle. I could feel his pain. “I’ve been single for almost fifteen years now, WTF!” For me it’s only been about…
A Mental Health Melt Down
I had an “Aha” moment. But when I say that, I don’t mean I spent thirty seconds listening to “Take on me” created by the gorgeous vintage Scandinavian band of the same name (Aha). No, I mean that I had…
Why sex shaming needs to stay in the past decade
Sex shaming isn’t something that has been foreign to me but since I started using PrEP, I have noticed how it has become common for people to make comments and assumptions about your sex life because you’re ‘on the pill.’…
The ugly truth behind body positivity
Though I grew up overweight, I chose to not be defined by it, and though I was coming to terms with my own body, stretch marks and all, I didn’t realise that I played a negative role in the way…
When Love Bottoms Out – Can two bottoms make a top?
It’s the romance related question that is as old as time itself and many a love story has been made or destroyed by the answer. “Are you top or bottom?” It seems to be the question that has many people…
I don’t smile because I’m okay…
There has always been a lot of stigma around mental health, especially in the African context, but the biggest problem we have is not learning more about it and not knowing how to identify the symptoms. Mental Health Awareness Week…
My plus-size journey to Gay World SA and how I’m breaking the mould
We are raised in a society where the standard of perfection is set by the muscles, beautiful instagram pictures and fitness-oriented lifestyles of the few. We have forgotten to look in the mirror and appreciate what we have, because let’s…
Celebrating Black Queer Love
Gay love stories highlighted by both straight and LGBTQ media people hardly ever show images of gay black couples. When one looks in the media, you never see any posts on Black Queer Love because the face of Queer we…
The Bear Necessities
If you go down to the woods today, you better know what it takes to charm the bears. Bears have become one of the fastest growing gay subcultures globally, and whether you are amused by parts of gay subculture being…