Humping When A Hug Would Do
Are you having sex when all you need is to be touched? We all need to be touched. It’s well-documented that babies that were not touched and held after birth stopped developing and often died, even if they received all…
The Name of the Game is Non-Monogamy
I am of the opinion that in all modern long-term gay relationships there comes a time when the question will be asked: Should we consider playing around with other people together? I often find that there are usually two camps…
Gay Men and Substance Dependency
According to the National Centre on Addiction and Substance Abuse(CASA), more than half of individuals that have a substance problem also use or have problems with other substances. And more than one in six of those with a substance problem…
Porn may be screwing with you.
And not in a good way. I have to admit that porn has played a large supporting role in the backdrop of my life so far, and I have mixed feelings about this. Especially now that some researchers are suggesting…
Mirror, Mirror on the wall…you’re my biggest fear of all.
Have you ever stripped down and stood in front of a mirror and seen how long you can look at your reflection? I have. The challenge was short-lived, and it’s not about the rolls and excess body weight. It’s not…
The road less travelled: Francis shares a Brave Story
We are all faced with decisions every moment of every day. What should I eat? What should I wear? Should I exercise or not? There comes a day, a moment that becomes a fork in the road, a choice to…
Undetectable viral load? You can’t pass it on!
Did you know that if an HIV-positive guy is on ARV treatment and the virus in his blood is undetectable, he cannot infect someone else? Undetectable equals untransmittable. In other words, treatment prevents transmission! Therefore, treatment is a HUGE…
Be warned: Chemsex Catfishing is a thing now
“When I got the invite to pop in for a drink from this hot guy, I could not believe my luck!”, explained Kyle (not his real name). “I was actually so excited that he even knew who I was. But…
Pride: What exactly are we proud of?
Sometimes, in the quieter moments of my mind, I think about homosexuality and I become a little child in the small North West Province mining village, where words like “moffie”, “gomgat” and “sies” raised us all with a stable and…
Coming-Out Drag
When I was little I used to call high heels “cluck-cluck shoes” because of that sound – that authoritative smack – they make on the floor with every step. One of my earliest memories was cluck-clucking my way down the…