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The name of the Sh(G)ame

Let’s address the rather large red elephant in the room, shall we? Undetectable viral loads in a person on successful treatment of ARV’s and using PrEP in relation to shame, I feel is a conversation that needs to start happening…

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Your Right to Liberation

Navigating your way around life as a gay man presents a unique set of challenges. Family, friendships, love, health, sex. Especially sex! Not all of us are having sex in the safest of environments or circumstances, and it’s important to…

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Big Dick Tips

“Nothing better than a big dick!” Okay, but really though? There are sub-groups on Reddit that would beg to differ. Hunties, it may be in vogue to wax lyrical about landing a guy with a big mass of man meat,…

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Risk Management for the heart

I have recently found myself with the unpleasant task of dealing with matters of Life and Death while filling in forms for life insurance and funeral policies, I kept running across a term that intrigued me - Risk Management. When…

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PrEPped in the (Sh)City

My name is Cadenza Jones and four years ago I decided to pack up my life and relocate to the Gay Mecca of Southern Africa. Fresh off the N1 from Jozi, I earned my keep, putting tin foil in over…

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Celebrating Black Queer Love

Gay love stories highlighted by both straight and LGBTQ media people hardly ever show images of gay black couples. When one looks in the media, you never see any posts on Black Queer Love because the face of Queer we…

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The Bear Necessities

If you go down to the woods today, you better know what it takes to charm the bears. Bears have become one of the fastest growing gay subcultures globally, and whether you are amused by parts of gay subculture being…

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The Unapologetic Pansy

Man the fuck up! How many times have you heard those words said out loud to you? Grow a pair of balls! Be a man, for crying out loud!  Must you be such a Pansy? I remember a video on…

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Dealing With Prejudice

A recent study by OUT LGBTI Wellbeing together with the Love Not Hate Campaign found that 41% of gay men in South Africa know someone who has been discriminated against or murdered because of being homosexual. Our communities need to…

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