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TROLLS ON THE GRIND

Trolls on Dating Apps may have personality disorders – say, experts. If you’ve surfed the ‘interwebs’ for more than five minutes you've encountered the disturbing phenomenon that is the internet troll.  Vindictive people that cannot resist posting things they know…

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Let me let (myself) go

A few years ago, I was engaged to a perfect man. At least that is what I believed he was. Everything I had ever wanted was wrapped up in one parcel, looks, humour, intelligence, kindness and for once, I was…

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Humping When A Hug Would Do

Are you having sex when all you need is to be touched? We all need to be touched.  It’s well-documented that babies that were not touched and held after birth stopped developing and often died, even if they received all…

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The Name of the Game is Non-Monogamy

I am of the opinion that in all modern long-term gay relationships there comes a time when the question will be asked: Should we consider playing around with other people together? I often find that there are usually two camps…

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My Clinic Visit

Sitting in a clinic waiting room - waiting for test results - is definitely not my idea of a good time. It tends to put many things into perspective, once you’ve navigated around that rock of sick dread, squatting on…

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Gay Men and Substance Dependency

According to the National Centre on Addiction and Substance Abuse(CASA), more than half of individuals that have a substance problem also use or have problems with other substances. And more than one in six of those with a substance problem…

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Pride: What exactly are we proud of?

Sometimes, in the quieter moments of my mind, I think about homosexuality and I become a little child in the small North West Province mining village, where words like “moffie”, “gomgat” and “sies” raised us all with a stable and…

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To have but not to hold

I’ve heard many people share the sentiment that gays are promiscuous and are only out for sex. I have often smiled to myself and thought that there is some truth to the saying, but it’s true for gay and straight…

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