Let me let (myself) go
A few years ago, I was engaged to a perfect man. At least that is what I believed he was. Everything I had ever wanted was wrapped up in one parcel, looks, humour, intelligence, kindness and for once, I was…
Humping When A Hug Would Do
Are you having sex when all you need is to be touched? We all need to be touched. It’s well-documented that babies that were not touched and held after birth stopped developing and often died, even if they received all…
The Name of the Game is Non-Monogamy
I am of the opinion that in all modern long-term gay relationships there comes a time when the question will be asked: Should we consider playing around with other people together? I often find that there are usually two camps…
HOLY SH¡T! GUYS GET HPV TOO?
Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) has always been on the radar as a virus that affects girls and women, mainly because of its direct link to cervical cancer. But did you know that, contrary to popular belief, it affects men and…
My Clinic Visit
Sitting in a clinic waiting room - waiting for test results - is definitely not my idea of a good time. It tends to put many things into perspective, once you’ve navigated around that rock of sick dread, squatting on…
Gay Men and Substance Dependency
According to the National Centre on Addiction and Substance Abuse(CASA), more than half of individuals that have a substance problem also use or have problems with other substances. And more than one in six of those with a substance problem…
Porn may be screwing with you.
And not in a good way. I have to admit that porn has played a large supporting role in the backdrop of my life so far, and I have mixed feelings about this. Especially now that some researchers are suggesting…
Should you be on PrEP?
You only need to log onto any one of the better hook-up sites or apps to see how popular the use of PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) has become. Every second or third guy describes himself as being “negative, on PrEP”, and…
Mirror, Mirror on the wall…you’re my biggest fear of all.
Have you ever stripped down and stood in front of a mirror and seen how long you can look at your reflection? I have. The challenge was short-lived, and it’s not about the rolls and excess body weight. It’s not…
Brave Story: Godfrey talks about being Gay in Post-apartheid S.A.
It was four years into our democracy and a new constitution, which protected everyone. You would think that when I officially came out the following year after I was outed it would have been an easy experience? Not so! Even…