You love that watch, those earrings, or those butch leather boots. Accessories are fun. They can add to a look and give another dimension to how you feel about yourself. Sex toys can fulfil the same function. They can take pleasurable sensations to a whole new level, and they can spice up an already steamy relationship.
Here’s some advice on how to get the most out of your sex toys and to ensure that you have the most fun in the most beneficial way.
Warning! Many sex toys are made out of substances or contain chemicals that are not regulated and which could harm you. Some sex toys are made out of plastics, rubbers and other chemicals that are not even allowed in the manufacture of dog toys. If it isn’t safe for Rover to chew on, then it’s not so smart to shove it in your most intimate orifices. Make sure that your toys are made from non-toxic substances. Many rubber or plastic toys have pores that can trap germs (which could give you a nasty infection), and they can also leech dangerous carcinogens (potentially cancer-causing substances) into or onto the sensitive mucous membranes of your body.
Read the label and avoid cheap sex toys.
Dildos, butt plugs and vibrators come in a variety of shapes and sizes, and are made from an assortment of substances. Glass or stainless steel dildos are the most hygienic to use. You should always wash your vibrator or dildo thoroughly before and after use. If you are using a penetrative toy (dildo, butt plug, vibrator, anal beads, prostate stimulator) use a condom for partner 1 and then replace the condom with a new one before partner 2 uses it. Ensure that you thoroughly clean the toy before someone new uses it and clean it between each use too if you’re not going to use a condom.
Using a new condom on your penetrative sex toy is a great way to keep it hygienically safe.
If it’s a silicone toy, you should avoid using silicone-based lubricant or condoms that are lubricated with a silicone-based lubricant. Silicone and silicone do not go well together and can compromise the structure and composition of the toy.
When wearing a cockring around your cock, ensure that it isn’t too tight, especially if you are planning to keep it on for extended periods of time, as this may restrict blood flow and damage the sensitive tissue around your dick and balls. Personal preference differs but the rule of ‘thumb’ when using a cockring is that you should be able to squeeze your index finger in between your cock and the ring to make it a safe tightness. If you’ve never used a cockring before, it’s best not to start off with a metal one and rather familiarise yourself with leather, latex or rubber ones first.
If you like using sex toys when you are high on drugs (chem sex), or even if you use ‘poppers’ to relax and increase the intensity of sex, bear in mind that you may not register pain in the same way as you normally would. Your pain threshold may be increased, and you could be more likely to stretch and tear your ass if you use too large a sex toy too roughly. This could make you vulnerable to infections if exposed to your partner’s cum or blood. There may also be a risk of bacterial infections.
If used correctly, sex toys can be a great way to help you prepare for anal sex if you are inexperienced or feel too tight. Plenty of lubricant and playing at your own pace can help your next anal experience feel a whole lot better. Getting your partner to use a sex toy on you can be easier than trying to use it by yourself.
It’s not necessary to buy an expensive sex toy either. A carrot with a condom on it can also hit the spot.
Bruce J. Little is a contributing writer for Anova Health Institute. These are his views, which may or may not reflect those of Anova Health Institute and affiliates.